I subscribe to a service that shares articles of my interest on the daily. Usually it's all mental health related, but there is some lifestyle stuff in there too. Today one of the articles was a duplicate from before, that apparently I did not read mindfully the first time around. (Shh...don't tell...) I re-read it today and came across this gold nugget.
"Some professional advice: If you're trying to do something next to impossible, carve out some crying time. There's no shame there. Just cry. What you're going through is f-ing hard." - Jessica Wildfire
Where was this nugget when I was in grad school? Where was it when I started working again after ten years of unemployment? That was hard, but I was raised very differently. Women do not cry, women carry the family through and make sure it's taken care of. NO CRYING. But, in all honesty there should not be any guilt in crying and letting it out.
But, I want to remind you that good coping skills are always a good tool to have around. Play guitar, color, draw thousands of stick people, whatever makes you happy. Go out and try that thing you've always wanted to try but never did. Now's the time. Build those positive experiences. Build your happiness. Hopefully, the hard things won't be so hard if you're surrounding yourself with good things.
I'm not saying don't cry, by all means do it! We all need a good cry! I just want to remind everyone that life is hard, but it's meant to be fun too. This article was about proving people wrong and doing what you want to do. (BTW...it's posted on the 'Press' page) I'm all for that! It's your life! Do with it what you want, just enjoy it!
So the point is, build those coping skills, cry when you need to cry, just be sure you're doing what makes you happy and will be your reward in the end. Read the article on the 'Press' page. Become inspired!
Now...to share my favorite skit on crying...Admit it...we've all been there!
Dane Cook: Weep-a-thon
This past weekend I got to experience something really amazing, an almost spiritual experience. I met some amazing people. People like me. Passionate people. It sounds silly, but it's true. I'd like to give a quick shout out to the AKF Squad of SPN Survivors (https://spnsurvivors.org/akf-squad/) for allowing me the opportunity to speak with you and possibly become part of your community. I'd also like to thank IMALIVE (https://www.imalive.org/) for bringing me in on their conversation, offering me to be part of their family, and to spread their word through my practice.
These people understand what it means to lose, or be on that threshold of loss that eats away at your heart and never get those pieces back. On the outside the problem may seem as if it fixed itself to others, but those who love you and you yourself know the difference. Organizations like this keep that alive and keep it in the spotlight.
I know this blog has been sparse, but I hope with time and support that will change. Sometimes you let the wrong things in life take over and you drown, well that's where I was people. I was drowning in some pretty dark waters. I'm hoping that all that has changed and I will be able to keep up on the good things in life.
Visit my friends websites. Read the book I so blatantly advertised on this page. Become inspired to tell your story. You can tell it here if you'd like. Just whatever you do, don't hide from it or keep it in. You need to get it out and share.
I love you all-Charity XOXO
I am a Master Social Work graduate from UGA, and absolutely LOVE what I do. I specialize in DBT therapy, and enjoy working adolescent teens and adults (ages 12 & up). I hope you enjoy my blog, it's been a long time in the making! *HUGS!*